Emily Post Is Rolling

As a southern woman, etiquette is something I hold at high value. As a woman of the twenty first century, I slip sometimes. However, when it comes to "major events" I think it is very important to go back to our roots, and ACT RIGHT! No one expects for every text message, or facebook status to be the perfection of grammar or manners, but there are a few thing I think should NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER be done.

I am not going to preach about what I think is appropriate for a person should post on their own facebook page, because I do think it is a free forum and I can always use the lovely "hide" button if I don't like it. However, when it comes to posting information about others, there is a very thick, clear line.

Posting news of someone else's engagement, pregnancy, birth of child, health issues, friends or family passing or having health problems, and relationship information are strictly off limits. I feel so silly even typing that because being an adult, and having friends that are adults, I feel it should go without saying.

Here's a little story for you. I log on to my facebook one evening, and on my news feed pops up a status update from someone I do not even know. This status came up because I am friends with the two people who were tagged in the status that read:

I'm so excited for (Guy) and (Girl)!!! It's about time you two got engaged!!!!

Not even 10 minutes later, Ernie's phone rings and it is said (Guy) calling to share the exciting news!!! Ohhhh..... but wait..... we already knew because of their idiot friend who posted it for all the world to see. Bummer. :( It's such a shame that at this exciting time, this great couple didn't even have a few hours to share their own happy news with family and friends before it was blasted everywhere. And, knowing that Ernie and I each spent about 3 hours on the phone each calling loved ones when we got engaged, I sure would've flipped on someone who stole this moment from us.

Now I'll tell you another story. My oldest sister gave birth to my nephew almost 10 months ago, and she was able to call family and friends, spend time with her hubby and new baby, get a little bit of rest, and have the family come visit our newest member, all while her facebook page remained quiet. How lovely :) My sister has smart friends.

The moral of the story here folks is that, it's just not your business to share, so keep you FAT MOUTH SHUT! (and your fingers still)

Goin' to the.... garden

It's a mere six days until I don a white dress and become a wife. It's been a year now since our engagement, and planning this wedding has been a life changing experience. From the big things to the details, each aspect of a wedding says something about the couple. In this glorious day & age couples have so much more freedom to personalize their wedding to make it truly memorable. We wanted to have a good balance of "us" stuff and the great traditions of a wedding, minus the Electric Slide (gag).

"You're so calm" is what I've been getting from a lot of people, and it feels good. I guess the fact that I've had a whole year to pull this off helps because I haven't found myself scrambling for anything. It also probably has a lot to do with the fact that there were only a few things I was heart set on having, and everything else I was flexible on. I also surrendered about 3 weeks ago and decided that if I hadn't started it, it wasn't happening. So now I'm all done and I get to take it all in and enjoy.

A wedding is a special thing for so many reasons. Obviously the union and the start of the marriage is the most important, but little things like having many people from all areas of your life together. I mean, how often will you find my grandmother and one of Ernie's highschool friends on a dance floor together? We've also got the pleasure of having my uncle marry us. He's so official with his ordination card & all :) It's nice that we will have someone who really knows us making it official, just as long as he keeps the many embarassing stories about me to himself. It's also one of the few times our extended families will be together, friends who haven't talked in a while will hug necks, and some will finally meet that person that they've heard all those stories about.

We're pretty blessed to have a very experienced wedding party. Everyone is either married, or taking their 2nd (or 5th) stab at being a bridesmaid or groomsmen. Hopefully this will make everything go quickly so we can get on to the FUN! I'm so excited to see everyone in their duds. Picking out something that lots of people will look good in and not hate it very hard. My girls will be in this little number:

The boys will be in black suits that Ernie found at Joseph A. Bank with black suspenders and pale yellow ties. The girls' flowers will be yellow cala lillies to tie it all together. It'll look great against the green grass & multi colored flowers of the garden. The house is so precious and perfectly antebellum with a huge magnolia tree framing the wedding area.

In short, I can't WAIT! It's been such a far away thing for so long, and it's finally here. I get to annoy Ernie for the rest of our lives, and he gets to continue to leave the ice trays empty even though I've asked him 100 times not to. Mrs. Giles... here I come!

I be up in the gym just workin' on my fitness..

I have an 8am appointment with a trainer tomorrow and I. Am. Terrified. It's been 7 years since my days of hard core competition cheerleading and so have gone my days of working out with somone directing me. I also have only been going to the gym for a week now and I haven't been doing that in about 2 years. The last couple of places I've lived had free gyms so I didn't feel the need to pay for one, and I love getting outside for my workouts. I've just missed out on classes and the overall motivation that the girl with the 6-pack on the tredmill next to you can give. What if I can't do what the trainer wants me to? What if I pass out or something? EEEK!





I wouldn't mind looking something like this:





Check out those LEGS!!! Of course at 5"2', this is near impossible. I can dream though :)




You see, I'm not trying to toot my own horn but I was a really great cheerleader (It's ok, you can laugh). I was great with tumbling, stunts, jumps, dance, and I always lead conditioning because my coaches knew I would make it count. I'm really not in awful shape, I'm just not in awesome shape. I want to be in awesome shape. Since I've been out of the gym circut for so long I'm opening the floor to y'all to let me know some classes that you like. I have this thing where if I start a class, I can't walk out & do my own thing even if I seriously hate it. I can't quit anything! I'm so excited to get back in shape, I'm really loving my gym and the fact that it's cheap doesn't hurt either! So here's to tight buns & sculpted arms! I'll report back on how my little adventure with the P.T. goes. And you guys, send prayers!